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Nonsexual event support in San Francisco

Want someone knowledgeable to accompany you to a kink event?

Walking into a new kink space alone can make every unfamiliar rule feel louder.

For selected events in San Francisco and the greater Bay Area, Jules Darling may be available to attend as a knowledgeable, nonsexual guide.

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First Event Preparation

90 minutes$225Online

Heading to your first munch, play party, workshop, or kink event?

You’ll walk in knowing what to expect instead of wondering whether you’re doing everything wrong.

  • What to wear
  • What to bring
  • How to introduce yourself
  • Consent and etiquette
  • How to approach people
  • Managing nerves
  • What happens at events
  • How to leave or say no without awkwardness
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Event Companion

Online preparation + up to three hours in person + online follow-up$795

Walking through the door can be the hardest part.

We’ll meet online beforehand to prepare. I’ll then accompany you to an approved San Francisco or Oakland event, explain the space, answer questions, and help you move through the experience.

Afterward, we’ll meet online again to process what happened and choose what comes next.

Event Companion is available only after a consultation and is subject to event, location, timing, safety, and fit.

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Why people ask for accompaniment

You may want a guide if:

  • You have never attended a kink event
  • You do not know which event is appropriate
  • You are nervous about arriving alone
  • You want someone to explain the venue and rules
  • You want help distinguishing social expectations from actual requirements
  • You want a planned check-in during the event
  • You want to debrief with someone who understands the context

Wanting a guide means you are taking the environment seriously.

What event accompaniment may include

Before the event

  • Reviewing the event description
  • Confirming beginner suitability
  • Discussing clothing and venue rules
  • Clarifying your goals
  • Reviewing boundaries
  • Planning transportation and departure
  • Discussing how you will handle invitations or unwanted attention

At the event

  • Arriving together
  • Orienting you to the space
  • Explaining what is happening
  • Helping you identify staff or event contacts
  • Making introductions when natural and appropriate
  • Checking in at agreed times
  • Supporting your decision to leave

After the event

  • Debriefing what happened
  • Discussing questions or discomfort
  • Identifying useful next steps
  • Deciding whether a different event would fit better

What it does not include

  • Sexual activity
  • Kink play
  • Topping
  • Bottoming
  • Dating
  • Romantic companionship
  • Physical intimacy
  • Guaranteed introductions
  • Guaranteed admission
  • Acting as security
  • Medical supervision
  • Responsibility for the organizer, venue, or other attendees

Jules does not control event admission, venue rules, attendee behavior, or event safety.

Availability

Availability depends on:

  • The event
  • Venue policies
  • Location
  • Scheduling
  • Travel time
  • Whether the event permits or is appropriate for this type of support
  • Whether Jules believes accompaniment is a suitable service for the situation

In some cases, a private preparation session may be more useful than accompaniment.

Read the free first-event guide

You can ask for a guide without giving up your own judgment.

Ask about event accompaniment