I help people enter the scene without pretending they already know the rules.

About Jules Darling

Kink's favorite tour guide.

My first Dore Alley and Folsom were in 2009. My kink practice stayed with private partners as I gained experience as a dom; in 2025 I came back to the public scene in San Francisco as a sub to let my freak flag fully fly. Now I proudly declare myself a switch and a sadomasochist.

My practice

I'm intentionally not a therapist. I practice more intimate coaching than a therapist, like going shopping together for your first fetish wear, or being your event buddy at your first play party.

I teach PRICK and RACK consent. PRICK: Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink. RACK: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink.

Qualifications

My qualifications come from lived experience on both sides of the slash. My education is ongoing, by attending workshops in the SF Bay Area from organizations like Wicked Grounds, Dark Odyssey, Society of Janus, Kink.com, and Foundations. I am also a frequent attendee of local munches and kink community events where I've found such an amazing community that I love to be a part of.

I also run Leather Worship, a handmade boutique kink store selling collars, impact toys, and custom orders.

I also host Kink in 10, a kink podcast for beginners.

Beginners welcome

I specialize in coaching beginners, because when I first started in the local scene finding a mentor was next to impossible and feeling comfortable in the scene felt endless and confusing.

What I teach best

I focus on the practical stuff: what actually happens at a play party, how to negotiate before you know what you want, how to spot pressure, what to wear, and most importantly how to brand yourself.