Frequently asked questions

Kink coaching is practical education and decision support for adults exploring BDSM, power exchange, kink communities, or related interests. It may cover terminology, boundaries, communication, vetting, negotiation, events, aftercare, and preparation for new experiences.

Beginner BDSM coaching is private guidance for people who want to understand kink before acting on it. It can help with interests, roles, terminology, partner evaluation, negotiation, boundaries, stopping, aftercare, events, and next steps.

Polyamory coaching provides practical education for people considering or practicing consensual nonmonogamy. It may cover relationship structures, agreements, communication, autonomy, jealousy, time management, dating, and repair after broken agreements.

No. Coaching does not diagnose or treat mental-health conditions. It is not psychotherapy, medical care, legal counsel, crisis support, or a replacement for a licensed professional.

Services are for adults aged 18 and older. The primary focus is people who are relatively new to kink or consensual nonmonogamy and want practical guidance before taking a next step.

No. Curiosity does not require an identity. You may decide to explore, wait, change direction, or decide that an experience or relationship structure is not for you.

Yes, when appropriate. Partners can use coaching to discuss kink, opening a relationship, agreements, boundaries, expectations, and communication.

Yes. Department of Consent welcomes adults across genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures.

Yes. Virtual coaching is available. In-person options are limited to San Francisco and selected parts of the greater Bay Area.

You briefly explain what you want help with, learn how coaching works, and determine whether Department of Consent is an appropriate fit. You do not need to provide a detailed sexual history.

Your information is handled discreetly, but coaching does not carry the same legal privilege that may apply to therapy or legal representation. Exact privacy and record-handling practices are described in the privacy policy and coaching agreement.

No coach can guarantee that another person is safe. Coaching can help you evaluate behavior, ask better questions, gather relevant information, identify concerns, and decide what level of uncertainty you are willing to accept.

Nonsexual event accompaniment may be available for selected events in the San Francisco Bay Area. Availability depends on scheduling, event policies, location, and whether accompaniment is appropriate.

No. Event accompaniment does not include sexual activity, kink play, topping, bottoming, dating, romantic companionship, or physical intimacy.

No. Department of Consent is not an emergency or crisis service. Contact local emergency services or an appropriate crisis resource if you are in immediate danger.

The cancellation and refund policy is being finalized and will be published here. Until then, refund terms are confirmed in writing when you book.

Contact for current pricing. Rates are confirmed before any session is booked — there are no surprise charges.